You don't get it any I pray you never do

If you haven't been thru a loss here are some phrases that aren't helpful (some of these are actually offensive):

This is all part of gods plan
I know how you feel
Maybe this is a blessing and you just don't know why yet
You can have more kids
Why don't you just adopt
It just wasn't meant to be

When someone you care about loses a baby tell them you don't know what to say, tell them you are sorry for their loss, validate the existence of the little life that was lost and recognize that they are grieving that loss, not just the loss of a (seemingly replaceable) baby.